what is indecision?

What is indecision?

Aslam u alaikum dear Introduction Agar aap –apne sab se achay dost ki saalgirah ki taqreeb mein jane aur apni behan ke sath go ki daud ke darmiyan phatay hue hain, to aap ko faisla nah karne ya apna zehen bananay mein dushwari ka saamna hai. jab bhi kam az kam do behtareen intikhab hotay hain, to yakeeni tor par aap ko kam az kam thora sa ghair faisla kin mehsoos hota hai. grocery story mein bohat saaray ikhtiyarat Adam faisla ka sabab ban satke hain, jaisa ke college ke kisi barray ka intikhab karna ya dzni world mein –apne sath le jane ke liye sirf aik dost ka intikhab karna. kisi bhi waqt jab aap imkanaat ke darmiyan digmaghatay hain ya hichkichatay hain, yeh aap ke Adam faisla ka saboot hai . The good news Sab se pehlay, achi khabar : faisla nah karne ka matlab hai ke aap ke paas intikhab hai! agarchay aisa mehsoos nahi ho sakta hai, intikhab karna aik achi cheez hai. agar aap ke paas koi bhi intikhab nahi hai to, aap ko bohat ziyada be ikhtiyar mehsoos hoga. aik mauqa ke tor par faisla nah karne ki koshish karen - aap ko apni zindagi mein agency mil jaye gi. agar aap Adam faisla ke sath jad-o-jehad kar rahay hain, to aap ko nataij ki zimma daari ke boojh ka khauf ho sakta hai. ho sakta hai ke aap kisi aur ka intikhab karen – is terhan, agar cheeze theek nahi hoti hain, to yeh aap ki ghalti nahi hogi! lekin yeh bil akhir hamari zindagion ki zimma daari se bachney ka aik tareeqa hai, aur apni taaqat ka daawa karne se guraiz hai. agar hum baar baar faislay karne mein dosray logon se taall matol karte hain, to yeh shikaar, be basi, ya hamari zindagi mein poori terhan zahir nah honay ka ehsas peda kar sakta hai. yaad rakhen ke intikhab nah karna bhi aik intikhab hai – lekin aik ziyada ghair fa-aal jo aap ko taweel arsay mein kam baakhtyar mehsoos kar sakta hai. baaz auqaat hamein faisla karne ke liye apna waqt nikaalte ki zaroorat hoti hai, lekin –apne aap ke sath imandaar rahen ke aaya aap apna waqt muntakhib karne mein laga rahay hain ya sirf guraiz kar rahay hain . When things get more complex Agar aap Adam faisla ke sath jad-o-jehad kar rahay hain, to aap ko khauf ho sakta hai ke aik sahih jawab hai aur aap ghalat jawab den ge. lekin aam tor par, aik" sahih" jawab nahi hota hai - mukhtalif nataij ke sath mukhtalif intikhab hotay hain. zindagi seekhnay ka mauqa hai. jaisa ke hum zindagi se guzarte hain, hamein intikhab karne ke mawaqay faraham kiye jatay hain. aur jab hum challenge ki taraf barhatay hain aur intikhab karte hain, to hum –apne intikhab se seekhnay hain. hum jitna ziyada intikhab karte hain aur un se seekhnay hain, hum intikhab karne mein itna hi behtar haasil karte hain. hum wazeh ho jatay hain ke hum kon hain, hamein kya chahiye, hum kya chahtay hain. is se khud itmadi peda hoti hai. jab cheeze ziyada paicheeda hojati hain. Adam faisla ka talluq ibham se hai, jo miley jalay ehsasat ki haalat hai. paicheeda faislon ke sath, aap dono kuch chahtay hain aur nahi chahtay hain. misaal ke tor par, agar aap yeh faisla kar rahay hain ke aaya nokari ki peshkash ko qubool karna hai, to ho sakta hai ke aap mukhtalif awamil par wazan kar rahay hon jin mein maqam, thankhowa, fawaid, taraqqi ke mawaqay aur chhutti ka waqt shaamil hai. ho sakta hai ke aap tanzeem ke mission ke baray mein waqai pur josh hon, lekin aap thankhowa ke baray mein fikar mand hain. ya shayad aap is mauqa ke baray mein nisbatan pur josh hain, lekin aap soch rahay hain ke kya koi behtar peshkash aap ke rastay mein askati hai? agar aap jevan saathi ka intikhab kar rahay hain, yeh faisla kar rahay hain ke aaya bachay peda kiye jayen, ya kisi dosray malik jane par ghhor kar rahay hain to - dao ziyada ho sakta hai aur faisla ziyada paicheeda ho sakta hai .