Trust on yourself

Trust on yourself

e maqasid ko haasil to karne ki aap ki salahiyat par aap ka yaqeen. jab aap –apne aap par aetmaad kho dete hain, to aap khud ki ifadiyat ka kuch ehsas bhi kho dete hain. aap yeh aetmaad kho dete hain ke aap khud ko sambhaal satke hain ya apni dekh bhaal kar satke hain. aik makhsoos mahaarat par koi bhe mahaarat haasil karne se aap ko apni izzat e nafs aur es sy zindagi ke challengon se nimatnay ki apni salahiyat par aetmaad bahaal karne mein madad mil sakti hai. ravayye ki therapy ( dbt ) ibtidayi tor par khudkushi ke khayalat wali khawateen ki madad ke liye banai gayi thi. dbt logon ko un ki qabliyat aur khud ifadiyat ke ehsas ko badhaane mein madad karne ke liye aik zaroori mahaarat ke tor par" sy to taamer mahaarat" sakata hai. shuru karne ke liye, aisi to mahaarat ka intikhab karen jis mein aap mahaarat haasil karna chahtay hain, jaisay ke dance ki taknik ya koi nai to zabaan. is hunar ko seekhnay aur is par amal karne ka ehad karen jab tak ke aap usay injaam dainay ki apni se salahiyat par aetmaad mehsoos nah karen. jab aap sy so mahaarat mein mahaarat haasil karne ke liye kaam karte hain to chhootey smart ahdaaf ka taayun karna or to es sy madadgaar saabit ho sakta hai. misaal ke tor par, aap sy haftay mein do baar ya mahinay mein do baar mashq sy karne ka hadaf muqarrar kar satke hain. jab aap apni sy salahiyaton ko behtar hotay dekhte hain to aap –apne aap aur apni Protect self compassion harosa karne mein dushwari hoti hai jis ki wajah se woh khud par se aetmaad kho baithtay to hain. misaal ke tor par, agar aap kisi aisay walidain ke sath pallay barhay hain jo gas laytng ka istemaal karte hain ( aik terhan ki heera pheri jahan woh shakhs aap ko aap ki haqeeqat par shak karta hai ), aap mehsoos kar satke hain ke aap apni raye ya khayalat par bharosa nahi kar satke. is liye aap ko apna dosra andaza laganay ki mustaqil ho to zaroorat par sakti hai. yeh tajarbaat khud itmadi peda ho karna mushkil banatay hain, is liye yeh choti shuruvaat mein madad karta hai. jab aap kisi aisi sorat e haal mein hon jahan aap ghair faisla kin mehsoos karte hain, to –apne aap se poochnay par ghhor karen," kya mein waqai mein yahi chahta hon ?" agar aap is sawal ko aksar es sy dohratay hain, to aap ko apni androoni aawaz ya androoni jaankaari wazeh hoti nazar aaye gi jab aap khud ko apni khwahisaat, zaroriat aur khwahisaat ke mutabiq banana sekhen ge. apni khwahisaat aur zaroriat ko poora karna seekhna aisa lagta hai ke raat ke khanay ke liye kahan khana hai, ya yeh faisla karna ke kon si film dekhna hai. waqt guzarnay ke sath, aap ko maloom ho sakta hai ke aap ke paas mazboot khud waqalat hai ( apni zaroriat ke liye kharray honay ki salahiyat aur aap ke liye kya ahem hai ). jab aap –apne aap se behtar tor par jurne ke qabil ho jatay hain, to zaati hudood ko banana aasaan ho jata hai. is mein" nahi" kehnay ka tareeqa seekhna bhi shaamil hai yahan tak ke jab dosray aap se kuch mukhtalif kehna ho chahain. zaati hudood aap ko nuqsaan da aamaal ya to taluqaat se khud ko daur karne mein madad karti hain .